Today is our day! Let’s celebrate! • 10.11.12
I think one of the things that make life changes so uncomfortable and hard is that we are straining, eyes fixated, toward the end. Our mind runs through thoughts like these:
I don’t want to be here right now. I want to be THERE… at my goal… where I am DONE! I’m not where I want to be, doing what I want to be doing and being what I want to be. This is claustrophobic and I feel like a victim to this dictatorial regimen (never mind that, not to long ago, I wanted to this regimen to create the change I want in my life) and what would feel really good, really powerful is to do what I want today, right here and now!
It’s no wonder we fight change. In this context, feeling resentment and resistance makes complete sense. From here, today sucks. Of COURSE we want to escape before we get started! And even if it is the first day, we feel the pressure, the need for release from the oppressive confines of our self-imposed regimen. And so we do. We let ourselves off the hook. And most often, after we’ve done that – we regret it. We reassess and rediscover the reason why we made our intention for change in the first place. Something about the way we have been doesn’t work for us any more. It doesn’t fill us with joy and peace. We are unsettled. So we make goals and set up routines and regimens for tomorrow. Wow, are we ever stuck in a loop! How do we get out? Something has to change or nothing is going to change, right?
It’s important, critical even, to have a goal. There is an end, a way of being, that we are seeking. However, we must find a different way to relate to today (today, the day which isn’t the day of final accomplishment achieved and victory) – or that end goal we want and hope for will likely never arrive.
Those habits of ours aren’t completely worthless. I wish they were because they would be so much easier to drop, wouldn’t they? Those habits give you something that you are both comfortable with and addicted to. How they win out over our intended life changes isn’t surprising – rather it’s stunning when our life changes overcome our habits.
The real work for us isn’t the life change regimen so much as creating a new life, for today, that we love! How do we do that in the face of comfortable, addictive habits?
Here we go:
Set your day’s intentions before you start your day. It doesn’t have to be long. Five minutes will do. Although, the more you really know and feel what it is you want for the day, the more success you will have. That can be done in five minutes, but it may take longer.
In those minutes, say what it is that you want for your day and imagine it. See yourself doing what you want to do today. Imagine yourself crawling into bed tonight and feeling that completely delicious sensation of “Ahh… today was a really good day! I loved my day! I can’t wait to have another great day tomorrow!”
Fill in your day with things that you love and make you happy! If having flowers at your desk, or a silly bobble next to your work phone give you that little kid happy feeling – do it! Is there an image that inspires you? Put it on your cellphone or computer wallpaper. Is there a piece of wisdom that moves your heart and encourages you? If so, print it and post it on your mirror! If you love the smell of the ocean and the feel of the breeze against your skin… use your lunch break to eat there, or take 10 minutes at the end of your day to go ocean-side and soak it in. If you want to eat healthy food, but feel like something that is comfort food to you – pick the absolutely healthiest comfort food that still makes you happy and eat a portion of that. If you miss your family or a friend, give them a call. If a hot, bubbly bath at the end of the day is bliss – indulge it! It’s often in the spaces that our habits kick in. If we fill them ahead of time with those things that nourish us and ignite our love of life, instead of the rote ways we’ve lived and move through life up until now, things are not only going to change… they already are changed!!
Be forgiving of yourself if you slip into a habit. Beating yourself up isn’t going to create a day that you love. What will make a difference for you is forgiving yourself and then filling that space with loving play and nourishment.
Connect with friends who love their lives and are accomplishing their goals! I promise, it does rub off.
Take some time at the end of the day to look over your day. What did you love about your day? What didn’t you like? Take some time feel those and then think about tomorrow… about doing more of what you loved and less of what you didn’t. See yourself doing that as you fall asleep. And thank yourself for being awake, for paying attention to your day and for teaching you more and more about what things in your life make you happier and what things that don’t and that you are willing to let go. And then, sweet dreams, my love!
Today is the day! Today is the important day! Love the heck out of your day! And the next and the next! Before you know it, that last day, that day of accomplishment and victory – it will be here! And it won’t feel like such a big deal because every day between today and that day will have been exactly the kind of day you were hoping and dreaming of.
It is good to have an end to journey towards, but it is the journey that matters, in the end.
- Ursula K Leguin
Enjoying my journey, embracing love, life and health!